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20 November 2015

posted 19 Nov 2015, 16:59 by Stephanie Williams
.......We think too much about what goes wrong and not enough about what goes right in our lives. Of course, sometimes it makes sense to analyse bad events so that we can learn from them and avoid them in the future. However, people tend to spend more time thinking about what is bad in life than is helpful. One way to keep this from happening is to get better at thinking about and savouring what went well.

For sound evolutionary reasons, most of us are not nearly as good at dwelling on good events as we are at analysing bad events. Those of our ancestors who spent a lot of time basking in the sunshine of good events, when they should have been preparing for disaster, did not survive the Ice Age. So to overcome our brains’ natural catastrophic bent, we need to work on and practice this skill of thinking about what went well. (Martin Seligman)

With this in mind, I set to work this week seeking responses to this question from children. By the end of the first day I had a range of responses from learning a new song, eating a delicious strawberry muffin, making a new friend, achieving a reading goal, the weather being warmer....... Yes, it's often the smallest things that make a difference, when we are anticipating the answer will be more profound! 

At the moment you will be either waiting for a data meeting or attending one. Please keep the What Went Well (WWW) firmly in place. Focus on what your child is good at, what their strengths are, all their great qualities, the progress they have made and please don't dwell on the fact they may still be forgetting full stops! 

In Maori mythology, Tanenui i te Rangi travelled through the heavens to retrieve the three ketes (baskets) of knowledge:

“The basket of life's challenges.”
“The basket of life's triumphs.”
“The basket of growth and development.”

Learning is certainly a journey!